Making room for gratitude

How to make the time to be thankful

A few months ago, I noticed one of the tomato plants in my little urban garden had grown past the small wire structure I had built for it. The branch started to drag, the stem was bent, and the tomato on the end of the branch began to whither. I immediately ran to the garden store to create a larger, stronger structure – taped the stem back together – and voila! Soon, more tomatoes began appearing. Small green beads at first quickly grew into nourishing red plumps of deliciousness!

Surprised at how well the plant responded to my harried repair, I realized how similar life is to my little tomato plant. Our stems are growing fast, and it’s hard to keep up. But when we take the time to notice the things supporting us in our life and acknowledge our thanks, we too can blossom and thrive. The benefits of gratitude create a foundation from which great things grow.

But how do we create habits of gratitude?

How to make time for being more thankful

the fear factor

How to look fear in the face and keep going

As entrepreneurs, we constantly try to figure out how to avoid bad things from happening. We spend so much time trying to leap over pitfalls, that we lose sight of what really drives our business.

Our businesses are an extension of ourselves, especially at the smaller stages where it feels like there is less margin for error. When your business hurts, you hurt.

And nothing slows you down from achieving your goals more than fear.

Fear factor

Fear can stop you in your tracks.

Fear can elongate the time it takes to reach your goals.

Fear can paralyze you from making decisions.

Fear can cause you to wait until things are “perfect”.

Fear can take you in a different direction than you really want.

Fear makes you reactive and places you into a scarcity mindset.

As an experienced entrepreneur, I know what this feels like at a gut level. It feels like a lose-lose.

However, a deep breath and plowing into your fear will take you to where you need to go. When it shows up, it is important to recognize it, because otherwise fear can take over your subconscious.

How do you become more aware of fear?

The first step is accepting that fear is natural. Naming it brings it to the surface. Where is it in your body? Where is it ruminating on the hamster wheel in your mind? Identifying it makes processing fear possible.

Then, start figuring out what pieces are real. Contrast those with the elements of fear that are made up stories about something that may or may not happen. Sometimes, fear shows up simply because we need to learn something.

The smartest decisions are made from a mindset of abundance. Fear robs you of realizing everything that’s already working and pushing your business in the right direction. You have to acknowledge all the information you have and not allow fear to cloud your decisions. You honor yourself and your business when you make decisions from a position of clarity, compassion for all the elements, and confidence in a greater good.

How Little Nest helps mitigate fear:

The beauty of the franchise, Little Nest Portraits, is that you are part of a group of people who have been there. While it’s impossible to avoid every fall, surrounding yourself with a support system softens the impact.

Question: Where have you felt fear in your own business or life? What helped you overcome it? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

How to eliminate drama from your life for good

Choose the path of "The Creator"

When something frustrating happens, it’s natural to go out and garner support around how we were wronged.

When we see injustice, of course, we naturally come to the rescue of the victim.

When we feel disadvantaged, of course we get angry and defend ourselves.  It’s important to stick up for yourself and fight for what you deserve… right?

These are examples of very natural reactions to frustrating situations. What most people don’t realize is that they also tend to create a trap of ongoing life drama that is very hard to move out of.  The popular viewpoint that there is a victim, an aggressor, and a rescuer in each and every one of life’s challenges is very common.  But also incredibly limiting to our own success at work and in life.

The problem is that even when situations change, we always seem to arrive back at the same place of being in constant conflict, trying to rescue someone else, or being the victim. The subconscious ego believes this is the way to navigate life and get what you want.

How to eliminate drama from your life for good

Less Blame, More Joy.

Why it's all about owning up

So you’re working on something new. And it’s super exhilarating, especially when you’re first starting out! Lots of planning takes place. You get all your to-do’s in order. But then it happens.

At first you’re hopeful, but then that new project doesn’t work out like you thought it would. And you can’t figure out why. Things started off great, but then ended up so much more disappointing than you thought it was going to be. Joy always seems possible and exciting at first. But sometimes it ends up feeling like the pace car in a race–always slightly out of your reach.

If you’re feeling this way, I’d suggest considering the idea of responsibility.

Why I’m against customer labeling

The unfortunate beach debacle

As the masseuse whispered that the massage was over, I didn’t feel a typical sense of disappointment that I would normally feel when relaxing bliss ends. Instead, I remembered that I booked this massage as a means of checking out the hotel it’s in.

Not for just myself, but for my kids and husband, too.

Why I'm against customer labeling

You see, my family and I set out on a vacation in the majestic area of Hudson Valley, New York this past week. With the tree-studded hills, natural streams and fresh water beaches, we knew it would offer a little something for everyone — even our two small boys.