What to do when nothing goes your way

And how to get what you want out of life

As you pursue your entrepreneurial dreams and your life goals, adversity is going to happen. There isn’t anyone that made it to the top without it. Yet, at times, adversity can make you wanna not only throw in the towel, but rip it up in frustration, too.

So if everyone faces adversity — even those that are able to make their dreams come true — how do they differ?

I wondered this, so I took the time to research what it took for those people to make it to the top. I wanted to know the true story behind the adversity they faced and how they not only overcame it, but found the energy to keep going despite it.

What to do when nothing goes your way

Throughout my career I’ve been fortunate to meet and get to know sports celebrities, high achieving business-people, and really wonderful friends.

Let’s look at some of the common traits I’ve found:


They are enthusiastic, positive people who enjoy life.

They allow work stress to roll off their back.

They have great relationships with customers and co-workers.

They have an ability to detach from a difficult situation and find a solution.

They have an uncanny ability to move on without resentment when things don’t work out as planned.

We’ve all heard of the law of attraction, the idea that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts a person brings positive or negative experiences into their life. But what happens when it plays out in day to day real life? Is this theory only applicable to a select few superheroes? Or does it apply to me and you, too?

After getting to know numerous people over the years who are tremendously successful in both life and business, I’ve found that–to a person–each of them believes that they get back in life what they give out.

And they consistently apply this belief on a micro level every day as they interact with customers, co-workers and friends. These folks face every challenge as an opportunity, and every interaction as a chance to learn, grow, and make a friend.

I’ve learned from them that we’re presented with numerous opportunities every day to move forward with joy and possibility. When we do it right, the world is our oyster. When we miss the boat, our goals & dreams are pushed further out of reach.

For example:

    Blaming clients for the problem when they are unhappy = missed opportunity.

    Having a cup of coffee together and figuring out how to move forward together = joyful possibility

Those who work to see the upside of problems and choose positive responses are able to sail through challenges by taking responsibility for their part, taking action, and then moving on.

What to do when nothing goes your way:

  • Try looking at a situation from the other perspective. Be truly honest with yourself – did something happen that resulted in the reaction you are getting? Would you respond the same way if you were in their position? Empathy always helps with perspective.
  • Know that entitlement is the enemy of joy. The stories we make up in our heads are powerful, but not always accurate. Expecting something because of what we think we deserve is very likely to backfire. Work hard. Make the most of every opportunity. Earn your wings!
  • Focus on outcomes. Being right is incredibly unimportant. Making progress toward the outcome you want (for me, that’s living joyfully and with a deep sense of purpose), can help prioritize your response to a challenge.

The happiest and most joyful individuals I know abide by the idea that you always get back what you give out.

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